How+to+Spot+A+Bully

Why do you think bullies do what they do?
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What bully "Warning Signs" do you think others should look for?
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 * Bullies come in many shapes and sizes: Check your feelings. If you feel or experience any of the following due to an individual or a group - they could be a bully:**
 * constant picking -on, fault-finding and criticism of a trivial nature - the triviality, regularity and frequency betray bullying; often there is a grain of truth (but only a grain) in the criticism to fool you into believing the criticism has validity, which it does not; often, the criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication
 * a constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions and achievements or to recognize your existence and value
 * constant attempts to undermine you, your position, status, worth, value and potential
 * where you are in a group, being singled out and treated differently; for instance, everyone else can get away with breaking rules but the moment you put a foot wrong - however trivial - action is taken against you
 * being isolated and separated from a group, excluded from what's going on, marginalized, overruled, ignored, sidelined, or frozen out
 * being belittled, demeaned and patronized, especially in front of others
 * being humiliated, shouted at and threatened, often in front of others
 * being overloaded with work, or having all your work taken away
 * finding that your work - and the credit for it - is stolen and plagiarized
 * having your responsibility increased but your authority taken away
 * having unrealistic goals set, which change as you approach them
 * finding that everything you say and do is twisted, distorted and misrepresented

For further information on what bullying is, [|click here]. For an answer to the question //Why me?//, click [|here].



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